Moving on is harder. Good luck to everyone who is recently single. And who need to move on. Who want to be able to enjoy life again. Those who want relics of the previous relationships to lose the significance of the other, and just become what they used to be. Movies. Buildings. Cities. Shops. Dates. Songs. Words. Names.

It's been a long time, but I can definitely say I'm over my 'long term' ex. It took a very long time. But now I can do things that used to have extreme significance; I can now listen to songs that used to bring me to tears (or others that infuse utter rage) without the negative emotional reaction. I can talk about time good times like they were - they were good! - without having to wince, or be sad, or be angry. I can sit at restaurants we used to frequent, eat meals we used to enjoy, see movies we used to share.

But new relationships do the same things all over again. I've liked my relationships (I haven't had a relationship that was of itself bad since highschool). I want to remember them fondly. And having gone through getting over other ex's, I know it can be done again - even if you fell completely for them. But that doesn't make getting over them any easier.

Heart's a Mess - Gotye [update! Legally download the video clip!]

Tonight I experienced another dilemma - the spending an hour writing an sms to someone only to delete it unsent Dilemma. Only it's not a dilemma really, not anymore, cos it's passed. This blog entry is basically an indirect substitute for the message I wanted to send. Funny how that happens!

Here's to moving on